WALK + TALK: A BTS OF CURRENT OFFER CREATION (59)

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I'm taking you all for a walk with me.

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Let's do a little walk and talk,

which I haven't done in a long time.

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If you've been a long time listener, and

by long time I mean a year and a half.

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Then you know that I used to do

a lot of walk and talk podcasts.

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I used to be pushing Aubrey in a

stroller and walking through the

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neighborhood or what not and just

recording my thoughts and this actually

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brings me to why I wanted to press

record is because I've been just

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doing a lot of, I guess reflection and

introspection and I don't even know

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what the right word is, just like,

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zooming out I guess, and looking

at the bigger picture of my life.

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Looking at the context of where I've

been, where I am, where I want to go

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and in all honesty, like, I've been

in a funny place in my life lately

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where there's been More self doubt than

usual, and more anxiety than usual, and

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more fears around being seen, or fears

around just other people's perception.

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And it's not even so much this fear

of like being misunderstood, but

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this fear of being wrongly accused.

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And so I've been Yeah, just

exploring those things.

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And being a radical and compassionate,

non judgmental witness to those things.

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And even before coming out for a walk,

I had kind of set the intention that

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I wanted to record something today.

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And I was laying in

bed at cycle day three.

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So, I'm basking in all the blissful

glory of being a bleeding woman.

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That means for me being as horizontal and

curling up in bed as much as possible.

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And yeah, I was just like,

no, like I need to move.

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I need to walk.

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I need to let this energy that I'm

feeling move through me and I went down

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a trip down memory lane and listened to

the first episode on this podcast, which

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was recorded in April of 2023, which

really doesn't feel that long ago, right?

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That was only like a year and a half ago.

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And there was so much medicine

for me in that episode.

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So I encourage you to listen to it too, if

you haven't been with me that long, or if

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you have, go listen to it again, because

damn, that version of myself was funny.

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And.

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I just am so inspired by her innocence and

her playfulness, and the intentions that

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I set for this podcast still remain true.

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So it was really, really humbling and

encouraging to tap back into that energy.

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And then I also listened to, I think it

was episode 28, where I announced the

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rebrand of this podcast from Not Just a

Mom to what it currently is, Rewild and

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Free, and share the conception story on

that name and like the meaning for me.

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And so that was also really inspiring.

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And I'm laughing at myself saying

that out loud because it's like, how

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can I be like inspired by myself?

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But I am.

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And in the reflections that I've been

making the past couple of days, weeks,

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months, And noticing this increase

of, like, self doubt and anxiety

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and bitterness, so much bitterness.

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Recognizing that that's my not

self theme in human design.

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Bitterness is my not self theme.

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So, it's an indication and communication

to me that I am not living in alignment.

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And so, coming back to those

episodes truly was an inspiration.

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And An invitation to come back into

alignment and to tap back into those

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values and those intentions that still

remain true for me today, as well as

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all of the, like, added evolutions that

I've been experiencing and the added

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life experience and the Potentially

small shift in values that I've

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experienced in this year in particular.

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And.

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Anyways, I'm beginning to ramble as I do.

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My intention for this podcast episode

was actually to give you a little behind

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the scenes on my offer creation process.

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It's something that I don't hear a lot

of other creators talking about and

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I notice even as I'm in the middle of

it, I, like I said, I've just felt a

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lot of self doubt and a lot of anxiety

and a lot of fear creep in and some of

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that is because I worry that, like, I'm

not doing it right, or I'm not doing

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something enough, or there's a, there's

a loud flavor of not enoughness in my

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life right now that I'm also tending to.

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And,

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like, a common thread or a through

line in my journey the past

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couple years has really been about

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Breaking up with hustle culture

and specifically in business, like

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boss babe culture, bro, bro marketing

with a dress on it, let's call it.

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And as I've kind of tapped deeper into

the spiritual world in the past year

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or so, that has been especially true

because I'm seeing a lot of I don't know.

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The word that's coming to

mind is like a dissonance.

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Like there's, there's a lack of

integrity that I'm noticing and

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I've spoken about this before and

maybe I'll try to find more words to

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actually create a whole episode on it.

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Because I do think it's being felt

collectively and people are just having

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a hard time finding the language for it.

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Just like I am in this moment.

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But there's, there's a gap and

there's like a dysfunction and a

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a recalibration that is needed.

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Where.

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Basically, like, heart

and business need to

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be married in some way, and I'm just

not seeing that in a lot of places.

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So, anyways yeah, my intention for this

episode is to share a bit about the

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offer creation process that I'm, I've

been moving through, and just reflect

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out loud and share this process, because

I think it can be really helpful if you

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are also a coach, or healer, or doula,

or online someone, someone who creates

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something in any shape or form, right?

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Whether it's a course, or a group

program, or a frickin book, or

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a podcast, or mentorship, like

whatever it is, like I still think

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this can be really helpful for you.

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So, it's funny, like when you're walking,

I'm trying to like also be present with

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nature and my surroundings and I'm also

noticing not so much anymore because now

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I'm down in a park but when I was still

walking on my street I like did not want

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to be seen by my neighbors and I did not

want to engage in like any small talk

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and I don't want to make eye contact and

I don't want people to see and hear what

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I'm talking about and that is just such a.

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Mirrored to kind of what I've

been feeling in my life lately.

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Anyways okay.

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Coming back to this.

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So yeah, if you have been following

along, you know that I took a

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little sabbatical over the summer.

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So I was mostly off social

media from May to what was it?

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I think like beginning of September.

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And so.

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The past couple months have been

me kind of re emerging and I'm, I'm

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realizing now that after listening

back to those previous episodes where

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there was that like innocent, playful

energy, I And like, again, tapping into

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this, not self human in human design,

bitterness, like I was not bitter in

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those moments in that season of my life.

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And I've just been reflecting

on like the difference.

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And I think one of the differences

is like last, last year.

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So basically between like April and

October I truly was in this like, Give no

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fucks kind of energy, but also like deeply

giving a shit about whatever it was that

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I was passionate about in the moment.

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And I've kind of lost that and I don't

know where it went or maybe I do.

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And that could be for a future episode,

but I'm wanting to call that back in

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wanting to claim it as mine and really,

yeah, just reemerge with that energy

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because it hasn't really been there

the past couple of months or weeks.

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And so, That includes bringing you for

a walk with me as I record a podcast.

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And I can already feel a

bit more pep in my step.

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And the sun gorgeously shining on my back.

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And my, my feet.

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Throat feels more open, so here we go.

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Thanks for hanging out this long if

you've made it this far into the episode.

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Here's the actual juice and the, the

part that I wanted to talk about.

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So, yeah, if you've been following

along I think basically a month

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ago, I announced that I was going

to impromptly host a full moon.

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workshop and the intention behind that

workshop was all around transmuting

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the big fiery energy that comes with

emotions like frustration and anger and

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resentment and actually glean the wisdom

and the communication from those emotions

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and turn that like fire into fuel.

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And in that moment that felt

really Really alive for me.

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It actually was inspired by a

workshop that I attended and had

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my own kind of transformation.

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And, and, and that moment I was

like, Oh my God, I need to share

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some of this with my community.

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And so it felt like it was moving

through me, like, like almost like

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word vomit, like, Oh my God, I

just need to like, let this out.

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I need to like give this to someone.

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Which is interesting because Part of my

offer creation process includes being

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very, very connected and aware of my, what

I kind of call like my cycles of creation.

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And that includes being mindful

of like where I am in my menstrual

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cycle and where I am in just my

overall like well being, how much I'm

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resting, how much time I'm actually.

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Making for pockets of like creativity

or open channeling to occur,

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basically like how busy is my life?

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How full is my plate?

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How much capacity do I actually have?

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Also being aware and kind of connected

to the cosmic energy and like full

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moon, new moon, that kind of stuff.

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I really don't know that much,

but I'm like learning each day.

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lunar cycle a little bit more and so

all of that really helps me to hone in

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on my own like cycles of creation and

understanding that like creation much like

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nature and things in nature and like the

seasons there's like a rise and a fall

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and there's I mean like the four parts

right like you spring is like kind of new

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beginnings seeds are planted you nurture

those seeds so like you With the idea of

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like creation, it's like you get a new

idea and you're kind of like protecting

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that idea and sitting with it for a bit.

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Maybe you're nurturing it, you're kind

of in that liminal space of deciding,

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like, are we going here or are we just

going to like sit on this one for a bit?

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You're probably very protective of

like who you even share that idea with

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because it could get squashed by someone.

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And yeah, you're just kind

of protecting that seed.

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And then summer is coming into

that more full bloom energy.

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So often that looks like

actually launching the thing

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that you've just created.

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And that obviously

requires a lot of energy.

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Launching is.

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often dysregulating to the nervous

system, and you are highly visible and

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I mean, you probably know this by now,

but like that spring and summer energy

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isn't sustainable to be doing all the

time and society has kind of perpetuated

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this belief or conditioned us to think

that we should be or could be tapping

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into like spring and summer energy all

the time and that's simply not true.

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So within the cycles of creation,

we also have fall and winter.

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And so fall being that time for kind

of like debriefing, whatever it was

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you created, maybe refining, deciding

how you want to make it better.

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You're also like harvesting whatever came

out of it, and that could be good or bad.

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Really it's just like this, this time

to be begin to get introspective and

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turning inwards and then winter being

that like time for I don't know, voidness

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is the word that's coming to mind.

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I don't even know if voidness is a

word, but like that, that void, that

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true liminal space where you're kind

of in this like sacred pause, you're

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not necessarily creating anything.

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But maybe you have seeds that

you're thinking about planting.

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You're also still.

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introspective and like reflecting

back on what's worked and what

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hasn't and you're kind of just

gathering all that information

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and resting and like regenerating

to get ready for the next season.

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And I would say that that fall and winter

season is the hardest part of creation.

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It's uncomfortable.

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It's when, for me at least, like

the self doubt Creeps in it's when

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it feels like nothing's working.

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Sometimes it feels like I'm just

like spinning my tires and things

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aren't, aren't actually happening.

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Like it has, it feels slow.

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There isn't like that outwards growth.

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So when we think of like society's

definition of success, those outward

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metrics likely aren't being met.

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And yeah, I find it can be

really easy to feel like.

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Something's wrong or that

like, not enough ness energy.

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You're doing something wrong

and that perpetuates this.

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this urge to do more.

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And that's actually the exact

opposite of what we should be doing.

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And so, coming back to this full

moon workshop that I was trying to

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create, looking back, I realized

that was a seed that was planted

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and I probably Acted too fast.

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I was excited.

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I was really riding the momentum of

coming back online and filling up my

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zoom room with people because sharing

that space and Holding space for others

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really does light me up and fill my cup

up and Basically within like the two

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days of me announcing I was doing that

workshop and like it was impromptu.

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It was, I think I literally announced

it on like a Thursday evening and

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I was going to host it on a Sunday.

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I realized, oh no, this thing

is way bigger than just a little

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like live full moon ceremony.

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I need to like put the brakes on

this, give myself a little bit

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more space, actually allow this to

breathe and become what it wants to.

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And so I pivoted.

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I announced that that workshop

was going to be canceled.

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It was transforming and evolving into

I then declared a prerecorded training.

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I thought I was just going to essentially

like record everything I was dreaming up

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and plop it into a little podcast series

or some sort of like prerecorded training.

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And.

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This is where the story gets really

funny because I was already internalizing

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a bit of shame or judgment for myself

in changing my mind and like not

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following through on something and

so I told myself to commit or like be

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devoted to seeing this thing through

because this has been another pattern.

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I haven't actually seen a

creation of mine through to its

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entirety since like last April.

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And obviously when I zoom out and look at

the context of my life that makes perfect

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sense, but in the moment I was really

just Being quite mean to myself and then

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you're like, you never finished what you

started and like, you keep abandoning

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and jumping ship on like your offers.

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And so you really just need

to see this one through.

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And so I committed to myself that I

would get this prerecorded training done.

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And I also had one person purchase it.

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So I had like that external

validation and external motivation to.

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Keep me going.

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And what's interesting is as I continue

to create it and as I continue to

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stay devoted with the Entity of

this offering it continued to get

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bigger and bigger and bigger and it

continued to Ask me for more space.

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It asked me for community and it asked

me for I think a detachment to timelines

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and I was so resistant to that because I

did have that one sale and I was quickly

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noticing like my very old and familiar

people pleasing tendencies creep in and

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want to complete this thing for that

one person and it honestly like gave

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me a really loud choice point of like,

okay, I can continue to following this

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old pattern of kind of forcing things.

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to completion and doing things because I

don't want to let someone else down and

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in doing all that basically bypass my own

inner wisdom and the communication my body

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was giving me or I could make a different

choice this time and really honor that

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like inner wisdom and the wisdom that the

entity of this offering was also giving

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me in the sense of wanting more space

and wanting community and so I did that.

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I granted myself a permission slip to

pivot once again and kind of held space

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for and didn't let the voices in my

head that were telling me that I was

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being flaky and not falling through

and all those things gave them space

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to be there because I know they're just

protecting me but also didn't let them

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take driver's seat in this situation.

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And ultimately, as soon as I gave

myself the space to pivot once again,

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this thing has, like, just evolved

in the most, extraordinary way.

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And I've been able to, get so clear on

who this is for and why I'm creating

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it and just, what it's turned into.

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And so, I guess before I share some of

that, I just want to say that, like,

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Everyone's cycle of creation is going

to be different, and each like cycle of

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creation for each piece of creation you're

creating is also going to be different.

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And that's where it gets really, really

tricky because we, I think as humans,

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really, really like to cling on to

patterns because patterns feel familiar.

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And so I guess the wisdom here that

I want to share is to just constantly

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be in connection with like the inner.

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Wisdom within and the wisdom from your

business and like allow those two Two

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entities to like co create together and

This is all by the way in the matter

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of like a two three week period and

while because I did I 85 90 percent done

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recording for The pre recorded training

that I thought I was creating and the

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whole time I was recording it I felt this

disconnect and I felt like I don't know

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this this would be so much more potent

if I was like teaching this live and

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actually having space for integration and

yeah it just wasn't it wasn't becoming

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what it was supposed to become and I

actually Like I said, it was like 85

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percent done and my intention was to

have it as like a little private podcast

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series and so I had The first couple

episodes plugged into like uploaded to

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the podcast and I Wanted to listen to

it from like a listener's experience.

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So I listened from my phone as if like

I was the person that had just like

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purchased this and as I was listening,

I'm like, oh my god, this is not it.

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Like this is not what

this was supposed to be.

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And so there was this moment of like not

feeling proud of what I created and again,

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I could have kind of let that Really

spiral into like, oh, I'm just being a

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perfectionist and like done is better

than perfect and like it's okay to be

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messy, which all those things are true,

but it wasn't actually my perfectionist

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that was like saying I'm not proud.

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It was.

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This, this lack of pride was because

this was out of alignment for me.

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And it was feeling like something I

didn't even want to talk about anymore.

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It was feeling like something that

even if I did follow through and

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finish and, and give access to the

person that purchased, it, it, yeah, it

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wasn't something that I was proud of.

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And that's not how I want

to build my business.

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And so, long story short, I've

obviously like messaged that person

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and I have given her different

options of how we can proceed.

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But that in itself was a really

hard decision for me because

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that isn't modeled to us, right?

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Like, nobody talks about what they do when

they pivot with an offering that they've

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potentially already done like a pre sell

for and now they have to decide like if

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they're offering refunds or if they're

granting like free or discounted access

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into like the thing that it's evolving

into and like so that was that was that

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was tricky and I'm I'm proud of myself for

what I decided to do but just naming that

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like entrepreneurship continues to have

a lot of moments of loneliness in it and

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The thing is, is we're not actually alone.

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We just need to start surrounding

ourselves with people that we can

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have these like conversations with.

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And yeah, I guess that's why it's

important to me that I actually

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share some of this stuff out loud.

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So anyways, now that I've given myself

that giant permission slip, and this was

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all kind of unfolding like last week.

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So now that I've given it space

and I've allowed it to evolve into

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what it wanted to evolve into,

things like I have never felt.

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This much clarity and even

saying like, I have clarity in

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my business feels so unfamiliar.

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There's like construction going

on, so I'm going to turn around.

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It's also kind of crisp outside,

so my nose is starting to run.

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I apologize for the sniffles.

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I'm also walking by like, I

guess it's like a Beaverdam?

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I don't even know.

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It's kind of weird to like be on a walk

and talk but you can't see what I see.

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Podcasts are weird.

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You might be like driving or maybe

you're doing the dishes or maybe you're

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like half falling asleep and not even

listening right now or maybe you have

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like a kid pulling on your pant leg saying

they pooped their pants or something.

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I don't know.

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So anyways, yeah, I've given this

thing some space and I'm just

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really, really excited for what it is

becoming, what it's like evolving into.

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And so I obviously don't have all

of the pieces laid out, but I would

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like to share what I have so far.

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And that is it's going

to be a group program.

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I don't see it so much

as a training anymore.

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I actually see it evolving into

what I'm going to call a retreat.

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Because I think we all need more rest and

rejuvenation in our lives and we don't

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need more strategy and we don't need more

things to just kind of fill our minds.

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We need opportunities to be in community.

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We need opportunities to untangle some of

the threads that we are probably feeling

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alone while trying to untangle ourselves.

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We need to be witnessed by others.

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like hearted women and we need to also

witness others because I have been in

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so many circles and group spaces where

there's so much medicine in witnessing

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myself through witnessing someone else.

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And so I'm reminded of that all the

time and I think that was the biggest

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disconnect that I was feeling when I was

trying to make this into a pre recorded

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training is like the community aspect and

being able to Hold space and give space,

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like set the pace for integration, because

when it was just the prerecorded training,

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it was something that would have been

bingeable and likely something that people

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would have listened on like 2x speed.

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And like when we're consuming in that

way, we're just really bypassing that,

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that opportunity for deeper integration.

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So anyways, yeah, it's going to be

like this, this virtual online retreat.

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I plan to still include all of the

stuff that I already had prepared

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for the prerecorded training.

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And spiraling off from the first iteration

of this when it was just a full moon

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workshop, I'm still including kind of

what I'm now calling emotional alchemy.

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So really giving space for some

of those big fire emotions like

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frustration and anger and resentment and

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Ultimately, creating safety in our

bodies so we can actually, raise

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them, and then express them, and then

glean the wisdom from them, and like,

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see the communication that's there.

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And also just give language to,

like, the water we swim in, the

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societal conditioning around.

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emotional regulation and

like emotional alchemy.

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And then from there really

getting into like identity work.

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And this is where it was starting to

feel so big and this is where I stopped

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it from just being a full moon workshop.

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Cause I'm like, oh wait,

this isn't it anymore.

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This has nothing to do

with the full moon even.

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And this is where like the

community aspect I think is

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going to be so, so potent.

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And so the identity aspect being.

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So often that like spinning tire energy

that comes with like frustration and anger

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and like, I don't know, almost all the

things that I've been working through.

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This is the other thing is literally

like every time I create the

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universe reflects back to me stuff

to deepen my embodiment with.

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So it's no wonder I've been feeling

all of the things that I shared

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at the beginning of this episode

because it's all an invitation to.

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step into or like reclaim a more

alive and embodied identity.

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And I, I like using the analogy of

like things are not fitting anymore.

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And so like you've outgrown an identity.

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And so those emotions like frustration

and anger and resentment might be

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coming up because whatever it is

you're doing, whatever you're trying

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to do in business or in motherhood

or, And your whatever relationships,

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like, simply aren't working.

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And so when things aren't working, we

need to try new things on for size.

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And so

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Yeah, this identity piece feels really

really big and I'm still finding the

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language on how I actually want to market

it and like express and Articulate the

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energy that I'm feeling with it But

the next piece that also was feeling

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too big to just have in like a pre

recorded bingeable podcast series was

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what I kind of see as Something that

nobody's talking enough about and

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that's like the nervous system frequency

attunement that needs to happen to like

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step into that new identity, right?

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We can We can kind of call in

wherever it is we're trying to go,

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but oftentimes the action steps and

like the change in behavior and the

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change in mindset that needs to happen

feels so unsafe to our nervous system.

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So we're constantly

experiencing like this.

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This pushback or this like, well,

ultimately like often experiencing freeze

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and that might look like procrastination

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.

And what's really happening is like, we aren't attuning the frequency

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of our nervous system to widen our

capacity to hold space for that next

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embodied evolution of ourselves.

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Like we are.

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Mentally, mentally, we're increasing

capacity and we're holding the vision

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and kind of expanding who we want

to be, but somatically in the body,

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the body isn't being tended to, to

match where the mind is trying to go.

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And so there's this like

mind body disconnect.

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And this is in my opinion where like

nervous system work is so, so potent

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and really not talked about enough.

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I feel like everyone and their dog is

talking about like quantum leaps and

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timeline jumping and like, just like,

step into like the, your most like

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confident coach air, whatever it is.

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And like, just like embody her.

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And it's like, okay, cool.

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Logically, I think we can all kind

of get on board with that, even

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though we can also see where we might

be like, caught in our own shit.

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But somatically, the body needs

to be supported through that too.

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So, long story short, this

little retreat isn't so little.

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It's probably going to be like an 8 or

12 week experience where we get to Just

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tend to all the things I just mentioned.

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And yeah.

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I don't know, I feel like I said

way more than I was planning to.

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And I don't even know if I'm gonna

publish this whole conversation or not.

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Cause I feel like I've

been all over the place.

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And I'm also just trying to

accept that this is who I am.

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And I should probably call this podcast,

like, Does That Even Make Sense?

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Because I feel like I'm

constantly, Just asking like,

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oh, does that even make sense?

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I have such a hard time or it feels

like I have a hard time articulating

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what's actually going in my head, going

on in my head and going on in my heart.

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And that, that fear of it

not making sense to someone.

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Absolutely getting in my way because

it's making me self censor and making

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me ultimately just like not show up

because I feel like I haven't completely

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formulated a polished enough thought

and I'm breaking up with that right now.

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Trusting that the people that need to

hear this will hear this and they'll

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resonate with some of the pieces I'm

sharing and obviously the more I start

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talking about this, The more clear

and more articulate it will become.

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And I know that from

previous creations as well.

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And so, I think the other things I

wanted to touch on were in the process

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of all of this like going all the

way back to the past year and taking

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time offline in the summer and coming

back and noticing what was happening.

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this bitterness and really trying to

be intentional about like matching

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my capacity and all of those things.

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I've also been deepening my understanding

of my own human design and also uncovering

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a layer of neurodivergence and that's

something that I haven't talked publicly

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about yet and I guess I just said it but

I'm still making sense of all that and

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it's helping me to better understand.

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The way that I just kind of exist in the

world and the way that my brain works and

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the way that creation moves through me.

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And so I just wanted to mention that

here because, again, I think, Nobody is

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talking about all of this all together.

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And there's just so much nuance.

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And so when we're constantly being

fed these,, oh, here's how to create

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a sold out offer in two seconds,

like all the nuance is missing.

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And then of course, like people invest

because we're also told that you need to

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spend money to make money or whatever that

marketing Agenda is, but then what happens

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is we like do all these things and we try

to follow all these like proven frameworks

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and strategies and then we walk away and

it's not working and it feels misaligned

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and we're feeling whatever our not self

theme is in human design and then we end

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up thinking like well I'm just not good

enough or I need to do better next time,

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I need to make more content or I need

to write more emails or I need to find a

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better way to Coach, or try a different

strategy, or Have a stronger mindset.

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Ew.

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It's none of those things.

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We don't need to do more.

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We don't need to force.

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We don't need to push.

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We don't need to, like, strengthen

anything except our connection to

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ourselves, and began tending to like

our animal body and reconnecting

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with the wisdom of our inner genius.

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And so, I feel like my experience

is completely validating that.

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And so I'm excited to speak more

on it and I'm excited to I mean, I

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obviously don't have a proven framework

to show you, but I'm excited to

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continue to share my process out loud

and help you find your own process.

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I also have a couple other things.

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That feel really exciting, kind of

leading up to this group retreat, and

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that is just bringing more language

to ultimately, like, the water we swim

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in, in the sense of hustle culture,

and like I mentioned at the beginning,

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like, This dissonance, especially in, I

think, like, the conscious and spiritual

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spaces where ultimately we're being fed

this, this, like, more conscious way

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of doing business, but it's still just

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So, I really want to shambler my

perspective on that and offer you

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a vision to hold on to and a new

paradigm to enter, ultimately.

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So, yeah, more to come.

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I'm starting to feel tired.

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I'm going to head back home now.

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It's also quite windy, so I don't

know how the audio is going to be.

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And my nose is severely

running, so I need to catch it.

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Okay, talk to you next time.