Episode 23

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29th Aug 2023

New Motherhood Real Talk: Postpartum Sex, Marriage, and Sleep with Hilary Blackstone

I'm joined by Hilary and we share our unfiltered experience navigating marriage, sex and infant sleep in new motherhood.

We discuss discernment between 'desires' versus 'shoulds' in motherhood, the importance of open communication in marriage, and unlearning societal pressures to be the "perfect" mother and wife.

At the end, we share contrasting experiences and insights from a sleep training and non-sleep training perspective and find commonality between the anxiety infant sleep has brought us. 

Meet Hilary Blackstone:
 
Hilary has a newfound passion for working with and caring for mothers ever since her daughter was born in December 2022.  Hilary has been working in education as an elementary teacher for the last 10 years and is eager to continue her work in education as well as supporting mothers. She sends out a monthly newsletter detailing her journey through motherhood and plans to host virtual circles in the near future. Check out her writing on Substack by clicking here

Connect with Hilary via email (blackstone.hilary@gmail.com)

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REWILD + FREE
Stirring good kinda trouble. This is a podcast where conscious entrepreneurship and personal exploration meets decolonization, nervous system healing, and cyclical living
What happens when you stop trying to fit neatly into this world?
When you unbecome everything you were told to be?
When you breathe nuance into a world obsessed with the binary?
When you stop chasing linear success and remember the power of the cyclical, the seasonal—the way we were always meant to be?

This is REWILD + FREE.

Not a blueprint. But an invitation.

To unmask. To unravel. To break free—not just from survival, but from the deep conditioning that keeps us disconnected. From each other. From our bodies. From the earth.

In all facets of life—motherhood, womanhood, conscious business, spirituality.

These are the conversations social media can’t hold space for. The ones that don’t fit into bite-sized posts or neat little soundbites. The messy, layered, deeply human ones. A mix of raw personal musings and soul-stirring interviews with those willing to go beyond the surface.

I’m Nicole Pasveer—mother, truth-seeker, activator. Someone who spent years untangling herself from stories that were never hers to hold. I’ve done the people-pleasing, the perfectionism, the fitting into boxes too small for me. I know what it feels like to wake up and realize—this isn’t who I am.

So here we are.

Stirring good kinda trouble.

Having the conversations that matter—healing, liberation, decolonization, reimagining how we live, work, and lead. Not with easy answers, but with big, bold, sometimes impossible-to-answer questions.

Where nuance, reclamation, and reimagination collide

Let’s rewild and remember. Together.

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