Episode 88

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7th Aug 2025

Creating Anyway: Even When You're Allergic to Structure + Sensitive to Rejection (88)

I’m sharing what it actually feels like to be in a creative season where nothing feels linear, my nervous system is sensitive, and I keep bumping up against the part of me that wants to throw in the towel.

If you’re someone who’s also sensitive, quietly rebellious, allergic to rigid structure, or just plain tired of pretending the creative process is clean, consistent, and “high vibe” all the time, then this one's a love letter for you.

I talk about:

  • Coming out of a burnout wave and rebuilding trust with my own rhythm
  • The energy rollercoaster of the past month and what’s helped regulate me
  • The magic of co-regulating with people I trust and how momentum can be contagious
  • Navigating rejection sensitivity and the fear that I’m “too much” or “too inconsistent” to be understood
  • Why the mess almost always comes before the clarity
  • My creative process as a neurodivergent mama who craves structure but also resists it deeply
  • Letting ideas crumble and reconfigure, like building block towers with my toddler
  • Learning not to run someone else’s race, and instead trusting my pace, even when it’s slow or weird or different
  • Why I believe missed shots in business don’t mean anything about ME

If you’re in a tender season, stuck in the swirl of too many ideas, grieving a past offer that didn’t land, or questioning your pace, I hope this episode feels like a soft exhale.

You’re not behind. You’re just building something honest that probably looks more like web, instead of a ladder!

As always, I'd love to hear what stirs or lands for you in this conversation. Send me an unscripted voice note on IG (@nicolepasveer) and let me know! 

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REWILD + FREE
Stirring good kinda trouble. This is a podcast where conscious entrepreneurship and personal exploration meets decolonization, nervous system healing, and cyclical living
What happens when you stop trying to fit neatly into this world?
When you unbecome everything you were told to be?
When you breathe nuance into a world obsessed with the binary?
When you stop chasing linear success and remember the power of the cyclical, the seasonal—the way we were always meant to be?

This is REWILD + FREE.

Not a blueprint. But an invitation.

To unmask. To unravel. To break free—not just from survival, but from the deep conditioning that keeps us disconnected. From each other. From our bodies. From the earth.

In all facets of life—motherhood, womanhood, conscious business, spirituality.

These are the conversations social media can’t hold space for. The ones that don’t fit into bite-sized posts or neat little soundbites. The messy, layered, deeply human ones. A mix of raw personal musings and soul-stirring interviews with those willing to go beyond the surface.

I’m Nicole Pasveer—mother, truth-seeker, activator. Someone who spent years untangling herself from stories that were never hers to hold. I’ve done the people-pleasing, the perfectionism, the fitting into boxes too small for me. I know what it feels like to wake up and realize—this isn’t who I am.

So here we are.

Stirring good kinda trouble.

Having the conversations that matter—healing, liberation, decolonization, reimagining how we live, work, and lead. Not with easy answers, but with big, bold, sometimes impossible-to-answer questions.

Where nuance, reclamation, and reimagination collide

Let’s rewild and remember. Together.

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