Episode 93

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23rd Oct 2025

Bamboozled by My Own Anxiety: The Tenderness of Stepping into a New Identity

In this little riff, I attempt to unpack what it really means to “step into a new identity”... beyond the pinterest quotes and pop spiritual manifestation fluff.

From the bamboozlement of future tripping, realizing how much mental energy goes into trying to get it right or plan for the future, to the tenderness of trusting yourself when the path is unknown — we’re pulling on threads of self-trust, perfectionism, and the nervous system’s craving for safety in this one!

Expect musings on:

  • Why “I’m working on it” language keeps you STUCK in limbo land
  • The MYTH of needing clarity before taking action
  • What straddling two identities actually feels like
  • The quiet courage of trusting the breadcrumbs that energize and inspire

If you’re navigating your own identity shift (in motherhood, business, or life - hello late identified neurodivergence LOL) , let's connect!!

As always, I'd love to hear what stirs or lands for you in this conversation. Send me an unscripted voice note on IG (@nicolepasveer) and let me know! 

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About the Podcast

REWILD + FREE
Stirring good kinda trouble. This is a podcast where conscious entrepreneurship and personal exploration meets decolonization, nervous system healing, and cyclical living
What happens when you stop trying to fit neatly into this world?
When you unbecome everything you were told to be?
When you breathe nuance into a world obsessed with the binary?
When you stop chasing linear success and remember the power of the cyclical, the seasonal—the way we were always meant to be?

This is REWILD + FREE.

Not a blueprint. But an invitation.

To unmask. To unravel. To break free—not just from survival, but from the deep conditioning that keeps us disconnected. From each other. From our bodies. From the earth.

In all facets of life—motherhood, womanhood, conscious business, spirituality.

These are the conversations social media can’t hold space for. The ones that don’t fit into bite-sized posts or neat little soundbites. The messy, layered, deeply human ones. A mix of raw personal musings and soul-stirring interviews with those willing to go beyond the surface.

I’m Nicole Pasveer—mother, truth-seeker, activator. Someone who spent years untangling herself from stories that were never hers to hold. I’ve done the people-pleasing, the perfectionism, the fitting into boxes too small for me. I know what it feels like to wake up and realize—this isn’t who I am.

So here we are.

Stirring good kinda trouble.

Having the conversations that matter—healing, liberation, decolonization, reimagining how we live, work, and lead. Not with easy answers, but with big, bold, sometimes impossible-to-answer questions.

Where nuance, reclamation, and reimagination collide

Let’s rewild and remember. Together.

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